Friends and screens

Just in case there's a quiet period newswise, journalists know how to get religious leaders to say provocative things to kick off debates. So the catholic archbishop of Westminster makes comments about friendship and about social networking sites, risking a martyrdom of jokes from atheists about having imaginary friends, and from the connected about confessions and screens.

Zapping via Google (mum, look at me) I find some of his words joyfully misinterpreted, and various commentators following the problematic tendency to generalise very broadly about young people when the issues are quite subtle, fluid and important. But still, it's not too impressive if a prominent religious figure has only just detected a 'rise in individualism'. Does news not travel quickly in Westminster?

Nonetheless I'm interested in, and I welcome, the way the archbish touched upon some themes that have bothered me lately in talking to young people: the idea of loyalty, the question of 'transient' relationships (not sure about his phrase 'impoverished friendships'), and the part played in this by the dominance of consumption as a way of life.

Not all young people struggle with notions of loyalty - to brands, media, friends, football teams or whatever - but I wouldn't be surprised if there is an issue here that we should be exploring. Many youngsters don't see much loyalty around them - their families change, their teachers change, their environments change, their expectations get changed for them. Society doesn't seem to expect any of us to stick with anything.

I too have wondered out loud recently about shallow relationships - I'm not really qualified to call this one either, and I certainly wouldn't pin it to social media; but I don't want to be ignoring the issue when I've found that it resonated with teachers I've spoken to.

And if we look back at a few decades of hyper-consumption, spectacularisation of culture and systematic deconstruction of what is 'public', would we really be surprised to find a thread running through and connecting these trends?

It's not right to dump the blame or responsibility for any of these on young people. It would have been helpful if the archbeak had recognised the contribution of his and my generation, and of politicians and the media, to the erosion of loyalty, the cheapening of relationships and the wretched diminution of the public realm.

More importantly perhaps, instead of pontificating (is that the right word?) about bullying uses of Bebo he might better have used his ability to get an audience, by calling for a forum in which young people themselves reflect upon the extent to which the communications media they use is related to the fact that some feel excluded, become depressed, and commit suicide.

I think it would also help more if we spend some time understanding whether there is some kind of widening divide between those young people who have had the chance to explore their own potential and social relations, and those who haven't. And it may be worth referring back to a piece JRF published a while ago which rightly stressed both how local, place-based social networks affect aspirations and behaviour; and the need for young people to be aware of and access opportunities beyond their immediate neighbourhood. This does not justify continued investment in either a 'backseat generation,' screen-dominated upbringings or school catchment policies that work against the value of local connections.

Oh and finally could people please stop talking about online systems as if they exist in a vacuum?

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Comments

[Martin]

Modern usage of 'pontiff' would suggest that the verb you need is 'sub-pontificate' at best...

[Liz Ixer]

I have many ex pupils on Facebook who inexplicably want to hook up with me and follow my exploits as housewife and community nuisance.

However what strikes me is how the friends that they all have on Facebook are the friends they had at school and have remained close to after leaving. I almost feel envious since I lost touch with many of my pals when I left for Uni. These young people are continuing their real life links not making transient new ones. There is still, I feel, a fundamental misconception about how people use social networks.

(I do wonder though whether very young children i.e. below 16 should be on any social network as they are much more vulnerable to the kind of pressures that the AB talks about)

I would love for more young people to access our social network Harringayonline. I post lots of stuff about local and London opportunities in work, sport, arts etc and I hope that some young people will pick up on it, I appreciate though that we might seem a bit staid for the 16-25 yr olds.

There is lots of stuff out there for childrens and teens (an example; my daughter now training with Tottenham thanks to a posting about girls football by someone) and helping them plug into it should be a priority.